Bridge the generation gap !

Quiet a strange question my daughter’s baby sitter ( Mini) asked me few days back…….what do you want your daughter to be like when she grows…….one who will hit people in school or one who will get hit by people. To be honest is the question strange or is it I an idealistic mother from a different generation. Mini has an eleven years old boy and quiet naturally she knows this generation of kids much more than I do. Still I was uneasy with that question and could not comprehend how I want my daughter to be when she grows up.

Back to my school days, I did recollect of standing outside the classroom for not getting my homework or making too much noise in the class, occasionally. However cannot really recall that my mother was summoned ever, for me beating someone or ever came home crying profusely of being bitten up by someone. So naturally never thought my daughter will end up, when she grows up, being in any side of the spectrum-- of thrashing someone or being thrashed. She is only eight months but this brings a question in my mind is the first seed of generation gap is just in front of my eyes.

My Mum remained best friend to my sister and me. At the initial years, I remember her to be quiet a strict Mum but as days passed and we became teenagers Ma became our best friend. We could share our deepest secrete with her and in turn got sensible advise from our friend, philosopher and guide. She in been my role model as a human being and more as a mother. I always thought that with my darling when she grows up, I will also try to be her friend at least if not her best friend.

However, today I get puzzled when I look around on how the kids behave. What we did as teenagers they want to do at 7-8. Now I only hope that I can develop that patience and understanding like how my mum did and can bridge this generation gap with a brisk of air.

Wish you were there Ma

Motherhood was one step I was scared to step in and together we were apprehensive, life was at its best with our DINK status and was not sure how equip we would be in the world of nappy changing.

The news came at a time when I was really heartbroken and shaken with my Mum’s life threaten disease, we were all trying to fight with CANCER, which had hit her suddenly and discovered at the last stage. The news did bring in a lot apprehension but yes, a faint of joy in everyone’s life, news of a new life, news of hope, all of us including ma started looking forward to life once again.

However, as luck has it and as GOD wished, ma could not wait for 14 days more to see her first grandchild and I lost my mom! the most precious person of my life just when I became a mother.

I do not know if reincarnation exit or not, but all elders say that because ‘ma” wanted to come back to me in the form of my daughter that she went in hurry. Our little angle is only eight months and I do not know if she has any traits of my mother, and even if she has it probably have something to do with her genes. But deep down in my heart it gives me some kind of relief when I look at my angle’s face and can feel the love I have for her and for my ma simultaneously.

With my little one, I have learnt what motherhood is and how a ma feels for her princess. I always knew ma loved both my sis and me the most, but now I know and understand that care when we were sick, that anxiousness when we were late at home, that worrisome face when we skipped our meals. Today the thought which crosses my mind ……………..only if I have could have thanked her for all love and sacrifice earlier, thanked her for whatever she did for me. I wish ma you were there today, and I could share my motherhood with you. I miss you Ma every day, every moment of my life. From wherever you are please, bless me that I can become as great a mother like you and can teach her all the good things that you have taught me once.